POSITIVE PUSHING

Parents 


Pushy parents are a very touchy subject to talk about. When it comes to the welfare of children, people are always ready to jump and point fingers at others without gathering the facts. The parents of theater gifted, and talented children get these nasty fingers pointed at them and most are due to the generalization that the media has made portraying these parents as mean, self righteous, and abusive. The honest truth is that parents care for their children and are not pushy, but instead they direct their children in becoming good adults by protecting them, encouraging them, and being dedicated to them. 

The role of the parent is to protect their children and provide for them all they can to insure that they have the proper tools in order to be successful in life. These tools include such things as having good morals, strong work ethics, phenomenal character, etc. Providing their kids with the mentioned tools, parents protect their kids from becoming failures in life and give them the option to make something of themselves, which far exceeds the expectations of their parents. Parents have to do these things in order to direct their kids. This is believed to be an “absolute moral imperative” (Lord). If your parents did not provide you with these tools, where would you be? 

“Pageant moms are the worst,” is something that I heard once. This I have to say is false. The moms and dads of the performing art children have to be the most dedicated parents I personally have ever seen. These parents spend all of their time and energy helping their kids exceed and they always remind their kids of how much they love them.These are almost the craziest and most fanatic parents of them all.They follow their children from competition to competition, from performance to performance, from dance class to rehearsals. These parents are always there and are always willing to help.

Should Parents Push Their Kids To Succeed In Tasks Beyond Their Abilities, And How Far Is Too Far?

There has been a great controversy about the tactics and methods that parents use in order to raise their children for many years. Some of the most pressing questions include inquiries about how far a parent should try to push their child. Should parents push their children to succeed in tasks, events, or activities, beyond the point that their individual abilities dictate that they can go? How far is pushing your child too far? These are common questions that are extremely difficult to answer. Some of the most important factors to consider include the fact that you have to think about whether or not the limitations are set by physical factors, can the child demonstrate potential without being pushed, does the child have a genuine interest in the elements of these tasks, and considering the negative implications if the child is pushed too far. These are just a few of the key factors to finding your own answer to these challenges.

In regards to raising children, as long as there is not an element of abuse present, then one cannot tell another person how to raise a kid. One of the most important pieces of the question to consider includes if the child has physical limitations or not. The ability of children to accomplish tasks includes the element that the child has to be physically capable of succeeding; otherwise it is a negative reinforcement of the pain of physical limitations. A parent would end up negatively impacting the emotions and mentality of the child by forcing him or her to repeatedly fail at a hopeless task. Instead, parents should identify physical limitations and push the child to excel within his or her means. Finally, the personal desire of the child to excel in various tasks will greatly impact the success of a parent pushing the child to succeed. If the child is not interested in the activities then struggle and failure is more likely to happen.

When it comes to how far a parent should push his or her child, there are varying answers for each unique situation. However, some of the most important elements include the fact that you have to think about whether or not the limitations are set by physical factors, can the child demonstrate potential without being pushed, does the child have a genuine interest in the elements of these tasks, and considering the negative implications if the child is pushed too far.